If you are like many of our clients, you love each other and want to work through the problems…it’s time to get the support you need
If you are ready to do the work, let’s take your good relationship and make it great
I’m not your traditional Couples Therapist.
In my 30 plus years of practice, I realized some of what we were taught in therapy school wasn’t helping my clients. You may have heard therapists should remain neutral, an “unbiased third party.” Too often, this doesn’t serve you. In fact, at times it perpetuates your marital problems. That’s why I won’t always stay a neutral observer. When needed, with compassionate firmness, I’ll call out destructive, anti-relational behavior, help you speak truth to power, and bring you both out of an anti-relational stance into genuine, healthy intimacy.
I think of myself as a visiting conductor for the symphony of your marriage, guiding you both on listening, speaking up, holding back, waiting your turn… and then passing the baton to the two of you. My goal is for you to put me out of a job – I don’t want you in couples therapy forever.
Most who come to see me are very good people, though some have been relating badly for far too long, damaging their relationships. Much of this was learned in the “relationship school” of the family where they grew up. Many, if not most, are highly successful professionally, but their relationships are falling apart.
If you are ready to do the work, my goal is to reconnect you to the relational person inside, freeing you from the destructive behaviors keeping you from connecting to yourself, your spouse, and your children; having the fulfilling relationships you’ve longed for.
